Ever stop to analyze why the “grass” looks better over there than here, then or NOW?
The proverbial grass appears greener when the task of one’s own lawn care is more daunting to look at than the neighbor’s yard. Something that needs to be addressed NOW is being ignored when looking to others.
Most people learn by their 20’s, easier is rarely better. Run from an issue and it will come right back until addressed.
The curious fact is when how few considering something new will be vicious in analyzing the details!
Any good salesman can present a product/ service or opportunity as “the bee’s knees”. Any person male or female can seduce a partner while few learn to woe them.
Why does each new partnership at first satisfy emotional desire, then turns out just as toxic as others? How was that partnership started? Bet the whole thing was based in charm and not creating value.
Yet there is more to why one still looks to the neighbors lawn!
In all things, how a partnership begins will be as tantamount to long term success as breathing is to life. Would one plant a garden of all corn when tomatoes are craved?!? No.
Is the moment NOW worth so little as to allow others to decide it? There is work in deciding how each moment will be spent instead of following every charming salesperson. Not doing the work brings a less than green lawn.
Most people fail to stop long enough to analyze the past, accept responsibility and create a plan for moving forward NOW.
1. What role will a partner play in one’s life?
2. What solutions do they bring to challenges NOW being faced?
3. What will life look like when unable to partner with exactly the ideal person the heart desires?
To woe another, become the best expert in how another may answer these questions. When the heart’s deepest desire has been determined and then broken down into smaller steps then simple tasks the likelihood of making the wrong choice is low.
To compare something proposed to what the heart dreams of is natural. Without first defining what the heart desires one can choose toxic more times than sweet.
For most the human heart seems to have a pattern of pursuing bigger, better and more. Some pursue drugs, alcohol and sexual partners, while others new projects, time at the gym with a vicious zeal. When the root cause for the heart’s desire has been satisfied everything changes NOW.
The heart changes from seeking bigger, better and more to a focus of maintenance, improvement and development. The shift is one from gluttony and self-aggrandizing behavior to caring and humble service.
These rules or truths can be applied to every area of life. Stop NOW long enough to be informed by the past in any area not 100% satisfied and become informed enough to determine why the grass is not greener on this side of the fence.